From Self-Doubt to Self-Belief: My Journey Toward Healing, Growth, and Action
Friends often come to me to talk, to share what’s on their minds. On one hand, they trust me; on the other, they feel that I have a good attitude toward life. I always tell them: if you want, you can have this mindset too—and with it, better health.
I can feel the changes within myself. I’m no longer the timid, self-conscious woman hiding behind others, waiting to be protected. Gradually, I’ve learned to take responsibility, to challenge myself, to grow. Of course, there are moments when I feel low, but overall, I’ve become more confident, more resilient.
Health isn’t just about nurturing the body—it’s also about tending to the heart. The body is the material foundation of the mind, and the mind is the spiritual commander of the body. Many people stop at taking care of their physical health, but without nourishing the mind and spirit, true healing is hard to achieve.
People who are chronically ill are often either insecure or arrogant. From what I’ve seen, insecurity is more common. I know how draining it is—how much energy it takes out of you. This internal struggle can break a person down.
When I started working on my mindset, it began with learning to accept and affirm myself—acknowledging my flaws and weaknesses without judgment, and recognizing my strengths without vanity. When someone points out my shortcomings, I accept it calmly. When someone praises me, I don’t let it get to my head. Our strengths exist to balance our weaknesses.
Every person is like that—no one is perfect. If you’re constantly fixated on your own shortcomings, you’ll spend your whole life at war with yourself. People like this care too much about what others think. They live for others’ opinions, constantly imagining criticism that was never spoken. And with all that mental noise, how can they focus on what really matters? Their strengths stay buried, and they live a life full of fear and hesitation.
But once I began to know myself, I could finally breathe. I could do what I wanted to do. I dared to try, to walk a path I had never walked. The worst-case scenario? Failure. But how would I know if I could do it unless I tried? With firm belief and a clear goal, I had no energy left to care about others’ opinions. At first, I walked alone. But eventually, I found more and more people walking behind me. The difficulties of being a trailblazer were outweighed by the joy of seeing others follow. That’s the power of purpose and faith.
When I started building my business website, I fell into the trap of perfectionism again. I kept postponing, thinking it wasn’t good enough. A few days ago, a neighbor chatted with me and gently reminded me, “You’re aiming too high—it doesn’t have to be perfect.”
She was right. Perfection doesn’t exist. I wasn’t confident, but after all this time, I couldn’t let the project go unfinished. So I dove in—spent two nights learning the system, uploading products and articles. The framework finally came together. Yesterday, I shared the site for the first time, and a friend from my chat group agreed to try out a purchase. I followed the entire transaction and experienced the platform from the customer’s side.
I really believe in this site—because it’s my own space, my own online home. It’s my business hub. I can share moxibustion and wellness articles, open a forum, develop a membership system, and build a stable customer base. I’ll be able to offer discounts for loyal members, ensure direct sales from my factory to customers, and eliminate worries about fakes or quality issues in the middle.
As a Pisces, I’ve always been a thinker more than a doer. And it’s painful when your thoughts don’t become actions. That’s why I’m working on my ability to act. Once the website was up, I felt so much lighter. It’s no longer just an idea floating in my head—it’s real, it’s usable. I was so happy that I waived the shipping fee and sent my first customer a few gifts.
This afternoon, I’ll keep learning how to manage the backend. There’s still a lot to improve, but the key is this: affirm yourself, and pursue your ideas with heart. It’s not about doing everything perfectly. It’s about staying in motion and continuing to grow.
To anyone still caught in self-doubt: cheer up. Find joy. Ask yourself—what suits you? What do you want to do? Then go do it.